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Are you making her feel neutral, like just a friend or are you making her feel attracted and turned on by you again? However, you need to make sure that you take advantage of whatever opportunity you have to make her feel attracted to you. That may be with a text message, it may be with a phone call, it may be with a video call or it may be with social media. I definitely recommend that you remain in contact with her, but since you and her have broken up, you need to ease up on the contact. You really need to limit the amount of time and effort that she has to put in to communicating with you.

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Trying to get long distance ex girlfriend back So around last month my long distance ex girlfriend of 3 years going to 4 broke up with me and her reason was that she needs space, wants to focus on herself, has too much stuff to handle, lost the spark in our relationship, felt that shes done a lot of mistakes, and said it's been too long to be in LDR.

Now I have told her countless times that she should move in with me since I got a place to live, stable job, and can't move due to school since I'm only a semester away from graduating but never accepted my request since she was worried that her parents would say no on moving in with me and shes Now this is where i believe i went wrong.

Now after she broke up I asked her if she wants me and she told me that she still had feelings and saw me in her future but needs her space and doesn't want to be in a relationship but she wanted to be friends for now so I agreed big mistake Every once in a while I would lay my feelings on her and begged her to come back to me and she would refuse and after a week or so I asked her again how she felt about me and she told me that shes slowly moving on I guess this is what all the begging and crying to her did but she kept telling me that we could still be friends.

At this time she still had all the love letters I gave her, promise rings, pictures, and jewelry I gave her. She doesn't wear her promise ring but she wears a bracelet i got for her and she still had our couple pictures hanging on her wall but i'm not sure if she still does now. Now I started to do the no contact rule and I would fail as one day passed but I got to the point where i went three days while i was trying to work on myself and see where i went wrong and then she sent me a snap of a poem she wrote.

It went along the lines that she was thanking me for everything I did for her but at the end she put "Thanks for leaving me, it was unconditional" Which reopened my wound and again went back to begging her to come back to me yes I know i fell for her trap and again she said we could be friends but told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship and that i should try to move on and that eventually she will stop talking to me.

After she said that I told her that we can't be friends and deleted her and her family from everything. Eventually she contacts me and I ignore it then her friend contacts me and I told her that its not her business to know since i didnt wanted for her to get involved in our problem. So eventually I told her that why does she care on having me as a friend. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything it was a legitimate question since she was the one who broke up with me and is trying to push me away from her life and when i tried playing the friend part she would give me vague answers and tell me "im not obligated to tell you anymore".

Eventually her mom found out that I unfriended her and she was crying and making a big deal out of it Her family loves me a lot and would always ask her how i was every so often even after the break up and my ex lashed out on me saying that im causing drama and what not which was not my intention at all I just wanted to start no contact and damage control the whole break up but she started going off on me when i told her that I'm just following her advice and trying to move on she got more upset and told me to throw out her stuff her love letters and what not.

After that I just ignored all of her texts because I know it was pointless and wasn't going to look good on me. Later that night she texted me saying if i was okay and also asked on why we can't be friends anymore but eventually she apologized and said that she didnt wanted to lose me as a friend but that she isnt going to contact me anymore and is going to send some stuff that I gave her but idk what its gonna be other than a smart watch i lent her for the pedometer feature and an amazon tap that she was gonna give back since she got a better wireless speaker.

Didn't reply to this but the IM were using tells her that I saw it. Now I know I will get flack for this but I want her back, I know that the no contact is to help me move on but I know that she is confused and isn't sure about her decision because she keeps giving out mixed signals through text and social media, hell she would bring up old memories of us and would show me pictures of us together after the break up and still had them in her phone.

I'm planning on doing a 30 day no contact in hopes on getting back with her because she isn't sure on what she wants because I can tell and she isn't using this time to address her feelings and is using distractions to get by she even said it herself.

This is my 3rd day of no contact but I'm just wondering if I was too upfront with the whole "Im going to try to move on" even though I want to get her back and that I'm going to contact her after NC even though she is the one who should contact me.

I'm just worried that I ruined my chances with her by telling her that. My birthday is coming up so maybe she might break there but I'm not going to reply to her since its during my NC but I'm not going to bank on it nor will i expect it to happen.

No offence, but I don't know how you're one semester away from graduating if you can't use punctuation and paragraphs. I could not read more than the first lines, but I'll say this much: If she asks for space, respect the break up and give her space If you want to repost this in the replies here with punctuation and paragraphs, you'll get more responses. Never mind, I eventually made my way through the post. I tend to think that ignoring someone in order to get them to come back to you is manipulative.

I would personally tell her next time she contacts you that friendship isn't an option because you have feelings for her and you want to be with her and work out whatever issues were going on when you were together.

Tell her you will be there for her when she's ready but that you don't think it's fair for her to lean on you until that time. Ask her to contact you when she's in a place where she is ready to be with you because you don't see the point in keeping up the charades as you know exactly what you want with her and that you're not willing to accept less.

After that, I would respond to her if she contacts, but only very brief, short messages that maintain your original attitude of wanting to be with her and that you won't be her friend to soften the blow. I think it's important to remain warm but firm And meanwhile, use the space to better yourself and your life.

Thanks for replying and my bad on the structure of my post. But yeah I see that this is manipulative but I have asked around and everyone tells me to go NC, like I know this is the only way for me to I guess break away from being friends with her.

She has told me she isn't going to date anymore until she fixes herself and feels that I can find someone better than her when in reality I want her. You could say I got overly attached to her which is true and wanted to use this NC time to give her some breathing room and to break my obsession with her.

Though I'm not sure shes is ever going to contact me because she told me that "this will be her last time you will hear from me" on the last text she sent me. Should I just break NC then and tell her what you told me or just stick to no contact and then tell her that? So around last month my long distance ex girlfriend of 3 years, going to 4, broke up with me and her reason was that she needs space, wants to focus on herself, has too much stuff to handle, lost the spark in our relationship, felt that shes done a lot of mistakes, and said it's been too long to be in LDR.

Now I have told her countless times that she should move in with me since I got a place to live, stable job, and can't move due to school since I'm only a semester away from graduating.

She never accepted my request since she was worried that her parents would say no on moving in with me even though she is 21 now. Now this is where I believe I went wrong. I would text her everyday, we Skype ever night, I would text her at work only to check up on her, moved in with a female coworker to avoid student housing, and didn't trust her when she would go out with friends.

So basically she saw me as being clingy, selfish, didn't trust her, had no self confidence, and was too nice to her. Now after she broke up I asked her if she still wants me and told me that she still had feelings for me. She saw me in her future but needs her space and doesn't want to be in a relationship but she wanted to be friends for now so I agreed. Every once in a while I would lay my feelings on her and begged her to come back to me and she would refuse.

After a week or so I asked her again how she felt about me and she told me that shes slowly moving on I guess this is what all the begging and crying to her did but she kept telling me that we could still be friends. Now I started to do the no contact rule to give her space. I would fail as one day passed but I got to the point where i went three days so I can try to work on myself and see where I went wrong.

Then she sent me a snap of a poem she wrote. It went along the lines that she was thanking me for everything I did for her but at the end she put "Thanks for leaving me, it was unconditional" Which reopened my wound and again went back to begging her to come back to me, which made me look bad.

Again she said we could be friends but told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship and that I should try to move on and that eventually she will stop talking to me. Eventually she contacts me and I ignore it. Then her friend contacts me and I told her that its not her business to know, since I didnt wanted for her to get involved in our problem.

So eventually I asked her on why does she care on having me as a friend. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything it was a legitimate question. She was the one who broke up with me and is trying to push me away from her life. When I tried playing the friend part she would give me vague answers and tell me "I am not obligated to tell you anymore". Eventually her mom found out that I unfriended her and she was crying and making a big deal out of it, forgot to mention that her family loves me way too much and they know about our break up which they're not happy that it happend.

My ex then lashed out on me saying that im causing drama and what not which was not my intention at all. I just wanted to start no contact and damage control the whole break up because I was coming off as to needy and clingy on wanting her back. Then I told her that I'm just following her advice and trying to move on she got more upset and told me to throw out her stuff her love letters and what not.

After that I just ignored all of her texts because I know it was pointless on trying to calm her down and would probably ruin my chances on getting her back because every move I made so far has been pushing her away. Later that night she texted me saying if i was okay and also asked on why we can't be friends anymore but eventually she apologized.

She said that she didnt wanted to lose me as a friend but that she isnt going to contact me anymore. She is going to send some stuff that I gave her but I'm not sure what its gonna be other than a smart watch I lent her for the pedometer feature and an amazon tap that she was gonna give back since she got a better wireless speaker. I Didn't reply to this but the IM were using tells her that I saw it.

Now I know I will get flack for this but I want her back, I know that the no contact is to help me move on. I know that she is confused and isn't sure about her decision because she keeps giving out mixed signals through text and social media. Hell she would bring up old memories of us and would show me pictures of us together after the break up and she still had them in her phone. I'm planning on doing a 30 day no contact in hopes on getting back with her.

She isn't sure on what she wants because I can tell and she isn't using this time to address her feelings and is using distractions to get by she even said it herself. I invested my whole time to her and she is a very good person. During the late teens and early to late twenties, people usually have many dating experiences before eventually settling down.

It's actually a good thing, to find out what you want versus what you don't want in a potential lifetime partner. You don't even really know yourself well enough in your late teens to early twenties, so how would you know enough to wisely choose a long term partner? If you can't trust that a partner will be faithful, then don't be with her or work on your own toxic thoughts and behavior if you haven't been given concrete evidence of cheating.

A person who truly loves you will pull out all of the stops to fix things in a relationship instead of running away. She chose to end things. You need to respect that decision, as she either lost or never had love for you, or she cares but isn't willing to give you a chance to improve since she suspects you won't. For closure, you will need to go no contact and remove hope for reconciliation. Concentrate on finishing your education, and don't get into any new relationships until you've given yourself a year to mourn this relationship and to work on yourself so that you're a better partner to someone in the future.

I'd recommend a local woman next time. Local dating is a better option as you can operate at a normal pace and find out sooner if you're compatible or not. Good luck. Thanks Adrina, I was trying to work on my insecurities and give her more space but it was too late since I barely started doing that two month ago. With all the stresses from school and work I only had her to vent on.

It is a lesson I have learned and take full resposibililty for my actions and will try to make myself better. I guess wanting to get back with her isn't a good option then? If a person let's you go once, it's highly likely the pattern would repeat itself.

I've always chosen to risk my heart on someone new versus reverting to the past. I can help you out in this situation, but first I have a question. What do you want from her at this point? You need to think about it and say exactly what you want. I want for her to figure herself out, to be independent, I want for her to be happy.

But I also want to continue making memories with her, make her happy, and build a famliy later on.

The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

By Chris Seiter. Long distance relationships are hard. Getting an ex back who you had a long distance relationship is even harder. Today, I am going to tackle this very complex subject and give you a set of actionable steps you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your relationship back.

You and your long-distance partner have broken up If you and your long-distance partner have broken up, things may seem fairly hopeless. You may be running out of ideas, and wondering if it's even going to be possible to win him or her back and remove that "ex" tag from their status.

Some people tend to ask their ex girlfriend to go back with them after the break up. This is likely to happen because when they are entering a new condition where their ex is not around, they can see something better. They can see their mistakes, and realize many things that they can do so much better in their relationship. If you feel the same thing, here are some information I can give you about how to get your ex girlfriend back in long distance relationship. You surely understand and realize that you break up with her for a reason.

How To Get Girlfriend Back Long Distance - How to Get Your Ex Back When You Had a Long Distance

No contact with an ex romantic partner is an effective way to allow that person to truly experience the negative consequences of the breakup and it generally affects those in long distance relationships in similar ways. Refraining from contacting your ex often results in them reaching out to you during that time. It is recommended that you watch the video above all the way through and then read the accompanying content below in order to retain and reinforce this knowledge so that you have the best chance possible of getting your ex back. The content below is not a transcript and is a different presentation of the content from the video. People often ask on a coaching call with Lee if they should use no contact for the breakup of their long distance relationship and how to fix a long distance relationship breakup. The no contact rule is tried and true in the world of relationship recovery. For both dating and marriage relationships, there is tremendous power and effectiveness in allowing the person who thinks that they no longer want the relationship to experience the consequences of their actions. This is not being cruel but, rather, is a mature response that allows the other person to truly experience what has only been a concept to them so far.

IS IT TOO LATE TO GET YOUR EX BACK?

Going through a breakup while in a long distance relationship can be very difficult to cope with; the distance that separates you from your ex either during the actual separation or in the days and weeks that follow can make it even more excruciating. No breakup is easy but the feeling of being physically far away from the person that you love and knowing that they are no longer yours can make some of the negative emotions even more intense. You must realize that all hope is not lost after a long distance break up and that in general it is possible to get back with your ex following a long distance relationship. This process can be a bit more difficult than if you had the opportunity to still interact with him or her face to face; however it is important for you to know that if you put the right actions in place and if you are in the right frame of mind, you can get back with your ex following a long distance relationship. My passion and full time job as a coach specialized in helping people get back with their ex is to provide you with tangible solutions that you can implement right away in your daily life!

How to get ex girlfriend back when you live long distance from each other can be tricky. When the relationship ended, she chose to move away, as in a different state or city!

Has your girlfriend broken up with you? Not so long ago my girlfriend dumped me just the same. Amazingly though, a few months later, we were and are back together and engaged.

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By Chris Seiter. In other words, I have made a mistake in not writing this sooner. A lot of the men visiting this site have been struggling for a long time. In other words, I am going to make this the most helpful guide on LDR long distance relationship ex girlfriends in existence. Now, you may be kind of creeped out that I actually remember the dates of my long distance relationship but I assure you there is a reason I remember it.

6 Ways on How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back in Long Distance Relationship

Want to share yours? In a lot of ways, our breakup was pretty typical — just as mundane, and just as life-shattering as all the thousands of others that occurred that day around the world. The usual. Except for one thing: At the time of our split, he and I had, for almost two years, been exclusively long-distance. I was in New York, and he was all across the country in California.

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Hi, so me and my long distance girlfriend have recently broke up from a 7 month relationship. We're both in our 20s and have been in relationships before we met but they were were not proper serious ones. Apparently the reasons were that she has problems with commitment, wants to focus on her career and family. The other reasons were that she felt I may have been too overwhelming during the relationship which I guess would conflict with the commitment?

I've been struggling with this for the past week, but I still can't think of a solution which is why I'm posting this thread here. I know it's a little off topic, but was still wondering if anyone could provide some much needed advice or tips on how I should go about winning my ex-girlfriend back. We were doing long distance before the breakup, which is one of the reasons why I'm not too sure how I should proceed.

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Nothing beats the anticipation and mystery on feels when entering a new relationship.

I met this girl when I was 18 and she was We lived in different cities, more than three hours from each other we still do , so we started long-distance dating. I loved her but always felt as if I was missing out on my life by being with someone while I was so young. Years passed and we had tons of break ups, mostly me breaking up with her. We broke up last year and stayed away from each other for 10 months.

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